April 12th, 1980

This past week was my parent's 30th wedding anniversary. She had just turned 28, he had just turned 30. They had known each other for 3 years and had already "married themselves" outside at the Cathedral of the Pines in Rindge, NH a year before.

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She was 5 months pregnant with my older sister and I think she viewed the church wedding as almost a formality, because hey, she was already devoted and committed to my father.

parent's wedding
The ceremony took place at a teeny chapel in Southern Maryland in the early morning. They dug up several forsythia bushes from an abandoned gas station, clipped some and replanted the rest outside as a thank you for the church. Each spring when the forsythia blooms, they get a little kick thinking about it.

parent's wedding
It was a close family and friends only wedding. No aunts, no cousins, or fuss, or seating charts. No DIY extravaganza projects. They just picked up the bouquet and corsages from the florist that morning, my aunt Terri (holding the baby) made a carrot cake, they went out to a big lunch and then my parents went to the Kennedy Center for a performance of Giselle. Is this kind of wedding still even possible?

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Her dress was a Gunne Sax that cost $60 from Woodward and Lopthrop in DC. She kept it hanging on her wall displayed for my whole childhood, so everyday she'd wake up and be reminded of her wedding.

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They have a really strong relationship and I think it boils down to the fact that they talk. A lot. Everyday. They talk through every thought and concern and problem. They also joke a lot, which means they laugh a lot.

But my favorite thing about them is that whenever I have my camera out, my dad will swoop down and give my mom a big, romantic smooch. Without fail, they still kiss for the camera and it gets me every time.

87 comments:

  1. Ah so sweet. How great to have amazing parents.

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  2. My husband and I had a wedding like that! Just our parents and us, in our house, with our minister. I cherish the memories of that day and our kids love to look at the photos that Grandpa Al took with our camera. It was a wonderful wedding. Your parents had the right idea about what's really important! :)

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  3. I love the photos you chose; what a lovely story! I think you're fortunate to have parents who've set the bar so high for what marriage should and could be.

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  4. what a wonderful wedding and a good lookin' bride and groom! and i loooove parents who still smooch it up for photos! yay merricks!

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  5. Ohhhh, this is a sweet post. Love it! Plus, your mom is a beauty queen!

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  6. What a wonderful post and sweet story!

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  7. I love everything about this and them.
    They don't even seem real.

    I just love it. ^_^

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  8. my friend got married in a similar way last year. only her family and her husband's family were invited. no friends or extended family. i think that is the best kind of wedding to have.

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  9. So sweet. This post made my day! Your mom is really beautiful by the way. Oh, and that Gunne Sax dress is amazing.

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  10. It is possible! I didn't want to deal with all the fuss (read families on opposite coasts and different religions and entertaining styles), so my husband and I were married on the beach with two witnesses and our officiant. It was sweet, simple. We said our vows and drank champagne in the shade of palm trees. I wouldn't trade it for anything!

    http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=7822244&l=cce9235742&id=864550011

    Elena

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  11. You are really lucky Amy. It reminds me to try and think about marriage this way. Make it what you want it to be.

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  12. Your parents were off to a pretty swell start that morning in the church with their gas station forsythia. Makes all the fuss and expense and obsessing over contemporary weddings seem ludicrous.

    Hats off to your ma and pa. They seem like lovely people and wonderful 'rents.

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  13. So beautiful. They look happy and they still are. :)
    I hope that weddings like that are still possible because I want to marry just like that one day.

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  14. wow, those photos are incredible. such a sweet story! x

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  15. This is amazing, and exactly what a wedding should be!

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  16. Oh I love this - and congratulations to your parents!

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  17. how wonderful! i just got engaged two days ago and we are already talking about wedding plans. your post is such a perfect reminder to keep things simple and to enjoy every step with your partner :)

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  18. ...I think I'm a little teary eyed...haha you have wonderful parents and I love how you described their marriage. How they celebrate their marriage is exactly what my hubby and I strive for everyday and people like your parents only prove it can be done! =)

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  19. So cute...god, your family is amazing.

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  20. thanks for sharing this story, amy! their love for each other and your love for them is palpable. what happened to that gunne sax? do you have it?

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  21. thanks to share with all of us those pictures. Your family looks so happy there

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  22. Thanks for that... reminds me of pics of my folks, back when we were a family...

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  23. I apologize in advance if my comment is an awkward over-share. However that is clearly not a deterrent for me because I'm going to divulge anyhow.

    My boyfriend of 6 years and I just broke up. We lived together and we had picked out an engagement ring. I found out that he has been cheating on me, not paying any of our bills which have now gone on my credit report, and he has left me with rent and bills that I cannot pay because I lost my job a few months ago.

    I say all of this to really say that I stumbled upon your blog and read this entry and it literally made me cry. It made me cry with hope for myself and for other women (and men) who have been in horrible relationships and we can see that people really can and do find true love that lasts forever.

    I thank you, whole heartedly, for sharing this about your parents because when I see this, I know that one day I will be able to find real love, honest love and I am grateful for the inspiration you've posted.

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  24. Its so beautiful to see this in your parents, my parents are the same way. Married 34 years this summer, they were married when my mom was 21 and my dad 23, with a very similar wedding. Turning 21 this summer myself, I find it incredibly hard to believe that this is possible but every time I go home and see how close they are and how well they communicate I know its possible. My folks, even today are very big on the impromptu smooch in the kitchen which was gross as a kid has gotten more endearing as I've gotten older.

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  25. This has me in tears. It's so sweet, and so special, and really so lucky that you were & still are aware of their closeness. My parents were similarly smitten with each other. My mom passed away 11 years ago. I cling to those memories of his wrapping her arms around her at the kitchen sink and my siblings and I rolling our eyes like it really bothered us. How very lucky we are to have seen, experienced & learn from a healthy & happy marriage.

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  26. this is beautiful and completely made my day :) xx

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  27. How incredibly sweet! My parents are divorced and have been for as long as I can remember, and this makes me wonder if I'd be less skeptical about love if I had had this reality growing up. Hmmmm.
    At any rate, congrats to your folks for 30 years! That's fantastic.

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  28. Your Mum is gorgeous. Such a lovely story to hear, thanks.

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  29. It is possible; my husband and I did it on a Friday the 13th two years ago in the courthouse with just our parents. We spent less than $100 for the whole shebang and I wouldn't change a thing.

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  30. What a beautiful tribute to your parents, my husband and I were also married 30 years ago and ate carrot cake!

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  31. Really great photos... and a very good looking couple. Happy Anniversary to your parents!

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  32. This is so lovely it brings tears to my eyes!

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  33. Beautiful photos you chose, what an amazing story :)

    Hugs marinela x x

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  34. really special and rare.
    it makes me want to run away and get married really simply like your parents did.

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  35. That first photo just kills me--the looks they're giving each other are just so amazing, like they're sharing some insanely sweet and funny joke no one else will ever be privy to.

    Rock on, true love!

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  36. Thank you so much for sharing your family stories with us.

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  37. That is such a sweet post! Wonderful story

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  38. What a beautiful story and beautiful wedding and inspiration for everyone looking for a happily ever after. Thank you for sharing it with us.

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  39. I like how in love they look in that first picture.

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  40. i'm so in love with this. thank you so much for sharing!

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  41. Would love to see some of those "Swooping smooches" from over the years. :)

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  42. That is such a wonderful story. Thank you for sharing!

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  43. Thank you for sharing this intimate, singularly beautiful story of your parents' wedding. I am the same age as your mother was back then and my boyfriend is the same age as your father, and I was born in 1981, the year after your parents married (I believe our mothers are the same age), so for these reasons alone this post has left an indelible impression on me. If my boyfriend and I ever marry some day, this is exactly how I want to do it.

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  44. P.S. Your mother is a vision.

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  46. What a lovely story. Your parents sound wonderful :)

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  47. This is so beautiful and sweet.
    Congratulations to your parents!

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  48. so incredibly sweet. and hooray for impromptu (and informal) weddings in nh.

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  49. aw, this made me tear up a little...

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  50. Brought me to tears while I'm sitting at work. Sweet and beautiful.

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  51. Wow, I love this story... it's so close to my parent's own tale... in so many ways it's like the story they've told me so many times...

    today is their 30th :) God Bless amazing loving parents :)

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  52. What a wonderful love story. I hope they have 30 more years together. Thanks so much for sharing this!

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  53. Such a sweet story. I wish we (me & husband) grow up to become such a loving couple... your parents are so amazing !

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  54. That's so amazing! And me and your sister should have about the same age...I was born September 1980 :-)

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  55. this is the sweetest story!! I love a good love story. and this one is, I have to say, pretty amazing. I love that your mom hung her wedding dress up to see it every day. and that your dad kisses your mom for the camera. just so romantic. thanks for sharing!

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  56. This is the way people used to get married before the 80s brought back the big wedding frenzy, only intensified by "Four Weddings & a Funeral" not too far into the 90s. All my older brothers & sisters (about the same age as your parents) had this kind of wedding. Lovely to see they kept some nice photos.

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  57. So touching. I love your parent's story.

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  58. Beautiful story. Just beautiful.

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  59. absolutely beautiful. after 26 years of marriage my parents are still in love. it really blows me away. i feel i have that type of love now. and i'm so lucky!

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  60. Oooooh, I long for a Love like that...

    :)

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  61. Love the pics it reminds me of my big day!!

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  62. http://www.stories.pk i have visited to this site and found to get the latest love story.

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  63. This was such a sweet post. I want to keep my wedding dress on my wall!

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  64. Holy smokes! This sounds like me and my hubby! We were married with just our parents present. I was three months preggos. I keep my wedding dress on the back of my bedroom door and put it on for every anniversary, just for fun (that way, I always know I'm the same size I was when I was married). Congrats to your parents, I hope I'm as lucky as them!

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  65. Wow, going to the ballet for their honeymoon! How perfectly perfect.

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  66. What a beautiful relationship they have.

    I don't know if there are still weddings like your parents' but I do hope so. I'm a fan of smaller celebrations and don't really like to be the center of attention.

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  67. This is so sweet. I love love love these photos. what a blessing to be married that long.

    Your blog is wonderful.

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  68. Oh my goodness, those photos are so dreamy, I especially love the first one! Your mother's dress is just gorgeous =).

    Penelope

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  69. I really enjoyed that comment about your fathers propensity to kiss your mom. So great to see love going strong after all those years.
    Oh, and his beard is awesome.

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  70. your mother looks just so naturally beautiful!

    lauren
    {http://www.deargolden.com}

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  71. This is a really lovely post :)

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  72. I love this idea, this is how it should be. Great post!

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  73. Such beautiful sentiments + lovely memories...

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  74. i work at a vintage clothing store and we just got that EXACT gunne sax dress in! i immediately thought of your blog...

    ps. your mom is so beautiful!

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  75. I love this more than I know how to express... what a beautiful life your parents share. <3

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  76. Such a sweet story! Thanks for sharing :)

    I think you should totally submit some of your pictures to Piper Weiss @ her blog, My Mom, the Style Icon. I believe the address is momstyleicons.blogspot.com

    Your mom is beautiful! I bet she loves these posts you've made about her :)

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  77. LOVELY! I agree with everyone else! your mom is sooo pretty!

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  78. I just stumbled across your blog and was delighted by this story. My husband and I were married on the same day as your mom and dad 30 years ago. You have inspired me to tell the story of my own wedding, so my children and grandchildren will know the story.

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  79. Aw, that's beautiful...
    I'm having just that kind of wedding very soon, and this made me even happier with the decision :)

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  80. that first photo is so awesome, your parents are hotties!

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  81. Belles photos, l'ambiance est bien là !!


    Séréna

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  82. I genuinely hope that if the time comes that I find a good guy and get married that I will be able to work towards the kind of wonderful relationship that your parents clearly have. My parents relationships is very similar, and I know that's exactly what I want.

    Thanks for sharing, and the pictures are wonderful. So sweet and so beautiful.

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