Aunt Betsy

I went to the mill for a night this weekend and found several albums of Emerson family photographs I hadn't seen before. The photos of my Aunt Betsy made my throat go lumpy. She died when she was 27 26 and my mom was 25, which is really hard for me to wrap my brain around what that means in reality.

Aunt Betsy


Aunt Betsy

She was my mom's best friend. Since now my mom is my best friend, do you think that it means Betsy and I would somehow mystically be best friends by association? I console myself by thinking thus.


34 comments:

  1. Of course!. I think we are all somewhat connected...I bet u have some qualities Betsy had. I know for me my grandma resonates in me.

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  2. :( this made me so sad! she is so cute, miss betsy! y'all look like you would be good friends. she is a little sissy spacek in badlands to me! what a lovely tribute.

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  3. Wow- that first pic is amazing!! Of course you'd be friends...I'm sure of it!

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  4. So hauntingly beautiful. I'm sure you two would have been great friends, no doubt.

    I agree with Ginny, she does look very Sissy Spacek in Badlands and a bit Kirsty Hume too (especially in the first photo).

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  5. Your post made my throat go lumpy!

    Love is all in your family - whoever it is shared by. Someone once told me nieces and aunts share a special bond... many share similar qualities. I know my aunt and I do. And I'm sure you do so with Betsy.

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  6. She is really beautiful. For sure you and your Aunt Betsy are best friends, as you are from the blood of your mother.

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  7. Gosh. 27. I can't really process that either. She looks beautiful and vivid and so present in these photographs. And yes, I think you're definitely psychic besties with her!

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  8. Wow...those photos are haunting. I often contemplate what I am missing in my life with several special ones who died before I was born. It's a classic "what-if" that never gets old and never finds an easy answer.

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  9. My sister died when she was 21 and I was 17 and we were best friends. I still can't wrap my head around it, even now, 11 years later.

    Of course you are connected, just as I'm sure my future daughter will be to my sister even though they will have never met.

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  10. Of course. I am cpletely sure you are in some way connected

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  11. I'm sorry :( Are all your family members that cool?

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  12. Such a lively spirit! She looks so much like an aunt of mine who also died at a young age. I'm a bit overwhelmed.

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  13. of course you would be best friends. what a sweet post in memory of your aunt.

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  14. I just discovered your blog and I really like it. Your words, your emotions, your pictures, your sense of humor, ... I have a big smile on my face now... Thanks for this. I'll be back!

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  15. Do you believe in reincarnation?

    ...I look at this sweet face and I see my youth...preserved...she is like a time capsule..it makes my throat lumpy too.

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  16. amazing blog. and these photos are precious.

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  17. wow, that top photo is quite arresting

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  18. great photos, she is very lovely.

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  19. This confirms my belief that photographs and video are THE MOST important thing in life, as "things" go. They are the only way to actually preserve what was. To be able to see and hear people that we will never see or hear in life again. Amazing. I don't think I will ever get over how amazing that is.

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  20. Photos are a time machine. Sometimes a memory lane to good places or very painful spaces. Photo's can be brutually honest yet they at times only show the surface and hide the truth. Your photographs always hint at the essence of what is, as well as your text.

    For me, looking at Aunt Betsy makes me think of what could have been. It also elevates her to the realm of expansive imagination. Where is she? What does she know that we don;t? What would she tell us if she could? What is death? What is the meaning of life?
    She can teach us to cherish this gift of life, of family and friends....despite the pain of love and loss.

    Death has the power to destroy those left behind or empower us. It is the ultimate teacher.

    The best of Betsy lives on....She lives on through your mother and through you.

    As Einstein would say: "Matter can't be created nor destroyed." She was. She is. She will be.

    Aunt Betsy would have admired you greatly and would be honored to be your friend.

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  21. Your mom loves, admires and honors you all the more because of Aunt Betsy.

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  22. I think that's exactly what it means.
    Have you posted the bottom pic before? I have seen it on another blog.

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  23. Perhaps before you were born... you and your Aunt Betsy were best friends in that mysterious unseen "Other World". She suggested to you: "Have I got the perfect family for you!"

    And here you are! Dreaming of her....

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  24. I can't look at the photo's.
    Honestly. Too painful.

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  25. I think in some level it does make you friends by association with her. She looks so beautiful in the pictures.

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  26. That photo is so beautiful. How wonderful that she will now live on, in a small way, in so many readers.

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  27. Oh, that's so sad - but it's so lovely that you still share a special connection with her... xxx

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  28. i keep thinking about betsy and coming back to this post. betsy, so unadorned and feminine in her joni mitchell coltishness, her unselfconscious toothiness, her breezy hippie beauty, kneeling in the garden in the sunshine all those years ago.

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  29. lovely photo
    thanks for posting that
    xt

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    Séréna

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